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Probably an older show, she joined E! in 1999 IIRC - comment left by paulonunes

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http://recoveryissexy.com/a-balancing-act-for-self-help/

The Ego, Super-Ego and the Id – A Balancing Act Anyone seriously interested in self-improvement needs at least a rudimentary understanding of the trilogy composed of the Id, the Ego and the Super-ego. These are not specific part of the brain. They are simply constructs designed to better study and understand how the psyche functions. The Id [...]

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One Dead Day – The End of One Life, the Beginning of Another Imagine waking up one morning, on any given day, and realising you’re now merely spirit–you have no physical body left at your personal disposal; that is, you somehow died during your sleep. Everything feels quite normal but somehow everything has changed. You wake [...]

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http://recoveryissexy.com/what-is-spirituality/

Spirituality is a part of a person (yes, a natural part) that searches for transcendent meaning and purpose in life and allows the person to transcend his or her conflict or suffering Spirituality is a personal relationship between an individual and a transcendent or higher being, force, energy or mind of the Universe. Spirituality is recognized as [...]

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http://recoveryissexy.com/workaholism/

Many people in recovery develop a work ethic that seems to over compensate for past deeds. This usually comes from a sense of guilt about the past and will not usually be lessened until they do Steps 4 through 9. These steps have an additional function of reducing guilt and shame. Workaholism can be seen as [...]

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http://recoveryissexy.com/8-reasons-women-stay-in-painful-relationships/

Many people in recovery from alcoholism, addiction, co-dependency and compulsive gambling may identify with these points. They may be the victim, the perpetrator or an observer. These reasons apply to heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual, asexual and transsexual people. Additionally, just because someone is in recovery does not exclude them from being difficult in relationships. Why would a [...]

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http://recoveryissexy.com/youth-in-alcoholics-anonymous/

International Conference of Young People in A.A. ICYPAA was founded for the purpose of providing a setting for an annual celebration of sobriety among young people in AA. Since its inception, a growing group of people, who at first would not consider themselves as “young people,” has become regular attendees. The number of young people suffering from alcoholism [...]

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http://recoveryissexy.com/spiritual-fundamentals/

I had no idea what God was. “The answer I was looking for was on page 12 of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, in Ebby’s words to Bill: ’”Why don’t you choose your own conception of God?”’ “’I’ve tried everything else,’ I thought, ’and I’ve got no place else to go. I might just as well.’ [...]

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Men in recovery from alcoholism, addiction, compulsive gambling are often heavy smokers. This article may be of interest to all smoking men. Men who smoke cigarettes run an increased risk of experiencing erectile dysfunction, and the more cigarettes smoked, the greater the risk, according to a study by Tulane University researchers published in the American Journal [...]

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Men in their 50s have more satisfying sex lives than men in their 30s Men in their fifties are more satisfied with their sex lives than men in their thirties and forties, recording similar levels to 20-29 year-olds, according to a survey published in the February issue of BJU International. A team of experts from Norway and [...]

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http://recoveryissexy.com/sex-and-healthy-relationships-in-recovery/

People in recovery from alcoholism, addiction and co-dependency often have questions about just what is a healthy relationship. This article will give many people in recovery food for thought. What is a healthy relationship and how does sex fit in? In the simplest terms, a healthy relationship is one that makes you feel good about yourself and [...]

http://thinkprogress.org/2009/12/10/palin-gore-debate/

http://thinkprogress.org/?p=73157

In an interview with NBC News’ Andrea Mitchell yesterday, former Vice President Al Gore pushed back against Sarah Palin’s anti-Copenhagen conference Washington Post op-ed by saying that “the global warming deniers persist in this air of unreality.” “The scientific community has worked very intensively for 20 years within this international process, and they now say the evidence is unequivocal,” said Gore.

Palin responded to Gore yesterday afternoon on her Facebook page, saying that “he’s wrong in calling me a ‘denier.’” Palin added that she believed “Climategate” proved that the “findings” of “the leading experts” in climate science “are flawed, falsified, or inconclusive.” On Laura Ingraham’s radio show today, Palin continued her attack on Gore. But when Ingraham asked if she would be willing to debate Gore on the issue, Palin demurred, saying that if it was in the wrong “forum” she would “get clobbered”:

INGRAHAM: Would you agree to a debate with Al Gore on this issue?

PALIN: Oh my goodness. You know, it depends on what the venue would be, what the forum. Because Laura, as you know, if it would be some kind of conventional, traditional debate with his friends setting it up or being the commentators I’ll get clobbered because, you know, they don’t want to listen to the facts. They don’t want to listen to some reasonable voices in this. And that was proven with the publication of this op-ed, where they kind of got all we-weed up about it and wanted to call me and others deniers of changing weather patterns and climate conditions. Trying to make the issue into something that it is not.

INGRAHAM: But what if it’s an Oxford-style, proper debate format. I mean, he’s going to chicken out. I mean, if you challenge him to a debate, do you actually think he would accept it?

PALIN: I don’t know, I don’t know. Oh, he wouldn’t want to lower himself, I think, to, you know, my level to debate little old Sarah Palin from Wasilla.

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All I want for ____________________ (holiday of choice) is Xobni December 2009 Dear IT Administrator, I live in my inbox. Not a house. Not a ________________ (building). I inhabit my inbox ______ (gigantic number) hours a week -- this is not an exaggeration. I don’t ask for much, only something to make my inbox more livable. It’s called Xobni. Xobni -- “inbox” backwards -- is a piece of software the size of a ________________ (something incredibly small) that lives on my machine and makes Microsoft Outlook a happier place to be. Their simple sidebar allows me to access valuable information abo

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http://www.schneier.com/blog/archives/2009/12/reacting_to_sec.html

Last month, researchers found a security flaw in the SSL protocol, which is used to protect sensitive web data. The protocol is used for online commerce, webmail, and social networking sites. Basically, hackers could hijack an SSL session and execute commands without the knowledge of either the client or the server. The list of affected products is enormous.

If this sounds serious to you, you're right. It is serious. Given that, what should you do now? Should you not use SSL until it's fixed, and only pay for internet purchases over the phone? Should you download some kind of protection? Should you take some other remedial action? What?

If you read the IT press regularly, you'll see this sort of question again and again. The answer for this particular vulnerability, as for pretty much any other vulnerability you read about, is the same: do nothing. That's right, nothing. Don't panic. Don't change your behavior. Ignore the problem, and let the vendors figure it out.

There are several reasons for this. One, it's hard to figure out which vulnerabilities are serious and which are not. Vulnerabilities such as this happen multiple times a month. They affect different software, different operating systems, and different web protocols. The press either mentions them or not, somewhat randomly; just because it's in the news doesn't mean it's serious.

Two, it's hard to figure out if there's anything you can do. Many vulnerabilities affect operating systems or Internet protocols. The only sure fix would be to avoid using your computer. Some vulnerabilities have surprising consequences. The SSL vulnerability mentioned above could be used to hack Twitter. Did you expect that? I sure didn't.

Three, the odds of a particular vulnerability affecting you are small. There are a lot of fish in the Internet, and you're just one of billions.

Four, often you can't do anything. These vulnerabilities affect clients and servers, individuals and corporations. A lot of your data isn't under your direct control – it's on your web-based email servers, in some corporate database, or in a cloud computing application. If a vulnerability affects the computers running Facebook, for example, your data is at risk, whether you log in to Facebook or not.

It's much smarter to have a reasonable set of default security practices and continue doing them. This includes:

1. Install an antivirus program if you run Windows, and configure it to update daily. It doesn't matter which one you use; they're all about the same. For Windows, I like the free version of AVG Internet Security. Apple Mac and Linux users can ignore this, as virus writers target the operating system with the largest market share.

2. Configure your OS and network router properly. Microsoft's operating systems come with a lot of security enabled by default; this is good. But have someone who knows what they're doing check the configuration of your router, too.

3. Turn on automatic software updates. This is the mechanism by which your software patches itself in the background, without you having to do anything. Make sure it's turned on for your computer, OS, security software, and any applications that have the option. Yes, you have to do it for everything, as they often have separate mechanisms.

4. Show common sense regarding the Internet. This might be the hardest thing, and the most important. Know when an email is real, and when you shouldn't click on the link. Know when a website is suspicious. Know when something is amiss.

5. Perform regular backups. This is vital. If you're infected with something, you may have to reinstall your operating system and applications. Good backups ensure you don't lose your data – documents, photographs, music – if that becomes necessary.

That's basically it. I could give a longer list of safe computing practices, but this short one is likely to keep you safe. After that, trust the vendors. They spent all last month scrambling to fix the SSL vulnerability, and they'll spend all this month scrambling to fix whatever new vulnerabilities are discovered. Let that be their problem.

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Anthropologist are drawn to topics: peoples, places, things. It’s part of the idiographic focus of our discipline that Boas noticed over a century ago, a fascination with the particular which has also been denounced as exoticizing or orientalizing: we just really really care about Ecuador. It really matters to when the new Methodist church was build in the village square of the place where we did fieldwork. We are the discipline which Leslie White mocked for publishing articles with title likes “An Unusual Prayer Stick From Acoma Pueblo”. Maybe it is because anthropology has always welcomed people who are interested in exploring their own subject positions as women or of color or indigenous, or as indigenous women of color, the Bea Medecines and Katherine Dunhams and Zora Neal Hurstons of our discipline’s past. Maybe it is because the the white guys in our discipline got attracted to it after getting out of the Peace Corp, or being teachers abroad, or otherwise getting hooked up with one particular community. At any rate, we tend to think in topics.

What we are supposed to do is to think in terms of problems: what is the relationship between individual agency and cultural norms? How does the environment affect culture? In what situations does ethnic conflict become violent? We are supposed to think like this because many people whose opinions we care about believe that scientific inquiry should be carried out in this more nomothetic, or generalizing, mindset: lab scientists, for one, whose experiments on rat livers are more driven by the problem ‘how does the body make proteins’ than the topic of ‘rat livers: so fascinating’. Political scientists and sociologist, the members of disciplines adjacent to ours, are also often motivated by this generalizing urge: what similarities can we discern between the Russian, French, and Chinese (Communist) revolutions? What is the relationship between race and quality of treatment in the medical system?

Our tendency to end our topics with periods rather than question marks has more practical outcomes as well. As teachers, we struggle to get out students to understand why the details of Nuer kinship ought to interest them. AAlthough we yearn to be ‘public’ or ‘applied’ when asked ‘what role does religion play in development’ our answer is often ‘They build the Methodist church in the town square in 1952! I fond pictures in the archives!’. Most importantly, the people who fund our dissertation research are, for the most part, interested in its theoretical relevance (‘intellectual merit’ as the NSF puts it) than in the area we study.

How, then, can graduate students learn to turn their topics into problems? How can professors make their ethnography interesting to those uninterested in their topic?

The obvious answer is to make your work ‘theoretically relevant’. In anthropology, this means making the topic you study the perfect place to explore a Big Question in the literature. Topic: Samoa. Problem: how do people use gender roles? Topic: Eighteenth-century Hawai’i. Problem: what is the relationship between structure and agency? Like that.

The problem with this method, of course, is that when you are fascinated by topics rather than problems you 1) don’t know what the Big Questions are because you’ve been busy digging out old photos of churches in the archives instead of reading Cultural Anthropology and 2) you can’t ‘read theory’ because you find it totally boring and not about your topic.

Let me suggest a way out of this problem.

First generalize your topic. What is that thing that you find so fascinating about your topic, and can you find it in other topics? If what really amazes you that they could build this huge gold mine out in the middle of nowhere Amazonia, then perhaps your problem is ‘resource frontiers’. You might even get interested in copper mines in Mongolia because you’re all like ‘hey that’s JUST LIKE what’s happening in the Amazon’. When they built the Methodist church in your town becomes ‘Methodist missions to Latin America’ or perhaps ‘the worldwide spread of Methodism’ or perhaps even something as general as ‘missionization’ or ‘the anthropology of Christianity’.Do you see what’s happened? You now have a generalized and comparative topic rather than one tied to a particular time and place. You have found ethnographic analogies to your field site.

Second find the differences between the particular cases covered by your generalized, comparative topics. In Amazonia they fought the coming of the mine tooth and nail, while in Mongolia they had a large, primarily mutton, barbeque to welcome the mine executives. Hmmm. It looked similar on the surface but now you see some differences.

Third put a question mark on it. The simplest way to do this is what accounts for those differences: Why is mining welcomed in the Amazon but not in Mongolia? Maybe its because the mining operations were different—one had a large environmental impact and the other did not. Maybe it is because rural Mongolians are desperate for cash and people in Amazonia want to stick to subsistence farming (both of these examples are totally made up by the way—sorry all Mongolianists out there).

Fourth, remove proper nouns. Now that you have added the question mark, remove all proper nouns. Go from “Why is mining welcomed in Mongolia but not in the Amazon?” to “Why are resource extraction projects welcomed in some communities but not others?” Or even “what is the relationship between global capital and local communities in the post-9/11 world?”. A fifth optional step, which you can only use for the next 18 months or so, is to add the word ‘assemblage’ to your project title. Congratulations: you have a problem which is ‘intellectually meritorious’.

So: develop comparative scope, look for differences, put a question mark on noted differences, and remove proper nouns. This procedure doesn’t get you in touch with Big Topics (that’s the subject of another blog post) not does it help make one less cynical about ‘theory’, but hopefully it will help topicheads see that even the most abstract theoretical discussions articulate with their own interests if you just follow the intellectual thread that connects them for long enough.

http://blog.makezine.com/archive/2009/12/new_paul_overton_blog_make_meaning.html

Make: Online pal/guest writer Paul Overton, of Dude Craft fame, just launched a new blog, in collaboration with CraftyPod's Diane Gilleland, called Make & Meaning, which seems to focus more on the process of creation than on particular products thereof. I feel like blogging in general, and particularly blogging in the DIY community, needs more of this "long view" type analysis. Paul's new blog may be a step in the right direction. Kudos!

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http://www.wikihow.com/Plan-a-Holiday-Potluck-for-Your-Workplace

Set a time and date for co-workers to bring their favorite holiday dishes to the office. It's a great way to spend time together as friends, eat great food, swap recipes and not break the bank.
Many industries have faced record cutbacks. Lavish holiday celebrations may be a thing of the past. Some employees may have trouble finding childcare or can't afford the expense of an evening out with co-workers (buying holiday clothes, dry cleaning, restaurant and taxi costs, etc.). A potluck at the office may be the best way to celebrate the holiday with all of your co-workers.
A potluck lunch or dinner is where everyone attending brings a "covered dish" or other menu item to the party. Because everyone chips in on the cooking, it's a low cost way to cater a large meal for everyone you work with. The dishes are set on a table and everyone serves themselves, buffet style.

http://blog.sciencegeekgirl.com/2009/12/10/science-cliches-to-chuck-down-the-black-hole/

http://blog.sciencegeekgirl.com/?p=1158

The National Association of Science Writers has a nice news feed now (check it out at http://www.nasw.org/, though the RSS feed isn’t obvious — ask me if you want it).  So, here I’m reposted a repost of a Wired article on Five Atrocious Science Cliche’s. Think that it’s time that we found a silver bullet for all the Holy Grails that scientists seem to always be seeking?  This article will shed some light on all the missing links that will eventually lead to a paradigm shift in modern science. 

Other posts include information on the Freedom of Information act, science news roundups, and articles on the future of science journalism.

I find the argument against science cliche’s very interesting, as a writer myself.  The problem with a bunch of these cliche’s is that they’re often misleading.  “Missing link” for example, is an overused phrase that suggests that our models are so clean and tidy that if we find one missing piece, then it fills in the rest of the story.  “Holy Grail” similarly misleads people about the nature of science…. with very few exceptions (e.g., the Higgs boson) there are very few things that scientists are searching for as a perfect shining goal.

But of equal importance is that these cliche’s are just lazy writing.  They’re shortcuts to a common cultural parlance, that let a writer get away from really describing what happened, of telling the story.  They’re not universally demonic, but generally, they’re not helping to illuminate (shed some light?) on the science that is the subject of the study.

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